Interracial Dating

interractialInterracial dating and marriages have increased substantially according to The USA Today.  In fact, an article entitled, Census Shows Big Jump in Interracial Couples, posted April 2012 in the same online magazine stated, “Among opposite-sex married couples, one in 10 (5.4 million couples) are interracial, a 28% jump since 2000. In 2010, 18% of heterosexual unmarried couples were of different races (1.2 million couples)…”  Wow.  That’s a big change.

This move has caused a lot of dialogue as you can imagine.  In the last few years I have read more than enough articles on the subject.  The following is just a few I can personally recall:  I can’t find a man within my race so should I date someone who is not black?  Why do black men date white women? If I date a white man, does it mean that I, as a black woman, am turning my back on the brothers?  I have heard all the reasons and rationales – some hate-tinged, some not, some skittish, and some bold as brass.  But you know what I’ve concluded?  Grown people are going to do what they want to do.  Others may or may not like it, love it, or agree, but once a strong, intelligent person has made up his or her mind, there it is.

Really, the fact that there is a rise in interracial relationships should not be surprising at all.  We live in a technical world; it is ever so easy to reach out to a person, who under normal circumstances, you would not have the opportunity to do so.  That’s what the technical world of the internet does – it opens up opportunities for those who are inclined to take them.  So many barriers that once separated people are just not a problem at all – language, distance, culture or race.  Let’s talk about Facebook, Myspace, Instagram, Twitter, Flicker, Pinterest, Tumbler, and just good ol’ email.

But then there’s the other side of this coin to consider.  My coworker and I was talking about how people will put more time into buying a particular automobile than they would getting to know a person that they intend to marry or are dating.  This same coworker, however; was quick to point out that he knew of instances where a person married only after dating for a couple of months and they are still married years later.  Now that was a risk – even though the same is true with any marriage – we both agreed that a hurried decision like that was a bigger risk whether of the same race or not.  In some cases, the more external differences there are, the more risk factors there are as well.

But ultimately, as time and experience has shown us, managing external responses to interracial relationships are not unmovable barriers but it is something a mature person considers beforehand, knows what she is up against, and prepares herself for it.

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4 thoughts on “Interracial Dating

  1. “My coworker and I was talking about how people will put more time into buying a particular automobile than they would getting to know a person that they intend to marry or are dating.”

    This is a topic we discuss often. We place more effort and time into mundane things; Coke versus Pepsi allegiance, what brand of jeans to wear, planning what movie to watch, etc. However, on the things that are life changing–no effort at all. Lol. This was always illogical to me.

    Interracial dating…people place irrational explanations on the topic and consider one racial make-up union, better/acceptable than the next. For instance, they do not question the pairing of an Asian male dating a Caucasian woman, however, Armageddon begins when it is a Black male and anyone. Logic escapes these people, but the best thing to do is sit back with a snack and watch their irrational behavior.

    Who you date is no business of mine–unless it is a minor or animal.

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