Not My Circus, Not My Monkey


If you’re like me you kind of wish that a sign would drop out of the sky that would clearly state what you need to do in any given situation. You know, like in the cartoons? One says ‘duck’ or another one says ‘wrong way.’ Except these real life signs would say, ‘Bye Felicia,’ or ‘Betta call Tyrone,’ or even still, ‘This is a waste of time. Move on.’

But woe unto us, life is just not like that. We have to use the old noggin and perceive when it’s time to walk away from toxic people, jobs that suck the life out of you, or dodge a problem that is not your circus and not your monkey. We all have to admit that some situations are a total wreck and just can’t be fixed. You have to walk away and mean it – or at least put some healthy distance between you and whatever it is.

Emotionally, it may not be that simple. We may have history or a bond (or at least think we do) with said job, person, etc., etc. So we stay and continue to be miserable, until something shows us otherwise. That’s why I love the tips below. There are like guideposts to help one perceive when it might be time to let it go and leave it behind.

  1. If something has you lowering your standards or changing who you are at your core and deepest and instead adopting habits that are unsafe or downright unhealthy that ultimately threatens your happiness, then it may be time to go. So in other words, if something or someone absolutely brings out the worst in you, let go.
  2. If you’re always the one doing the extending, giving of time, energy, money in a situation; but with no reciprocation, then it may be time to make an evaluation. No one likes to be taken for granted; especially after repeatedly communicating this fact and totally being ignored. So, is it worth it?
  3. It may be time to leave or distance yourself if you’re repeatedly making excuses for a friend’s behavior – bad temper, moodiness, or insensitivity. Once again, you’re doing all the taking (their bull), and is being given none of the consideration you deserve. After reasonable attempts to make it work – but not – it juuuust might be time to bounce.



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